Dying to Self: The Portal to Conscious Living

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This week on the podcast I have released a powerful masterclass about dying to the limited version of self. Listen to it here or you can watch it here

It asks the question: What if everything you've been taught about death is backwards? What if the very thing we fear most is actually the key to living fully? 

Seven years ago, I had a spontaneous out-of-body experience that shattered my understanding of consciousness, identity, and what it means to be alive. My consciousness left my body completely, and in that space beyond the physical realm, I discovered something profound: death is not an ending - it's a portal to expanded awareness. 

This experience launched my deepest exploration yet - understanding death as a daily practice for conscious evolution. 

Our fear of death is actually fear of pain - specifically, the pain of separation from everything we're attached to. But this fear keeps us trapped in limitations, clinging to identities and patterns that imprison our true expression. The cultural programming around death has disconnected us from understanding it as a natural cycle of consciousness evolution. 

This brings us to a crucial understanding: your identity - who you think you need to be to survive - is often your biggest limitation. These fixed ideas about yourself were created for survival, but they become prisons that keep you small. The practice of "dying to self" means consciously releasing attachment to these identity patterns. This isn't about losing yourself - it's about discovering who you are beneath the survival programming. 

This connects directly to how we avoid our deepest truths: every addiction you have is a way of avoiding core pain in your body. Whether it's seeking validation to avoid feeling unworthy, staying busy to avoid feeling empty, controlling others to avoid feeling powerless, or constantly learning to avoid sitting with not-knowing - these patterns keep you trapped in limitation cycles, using precious energy to maintain walls around your pain rather than moving through it to freedom. 

You don't need a mystical experience to practice conscious dying. Your breath teaches you every moment. Inhale equals birth - fresh energy, expansion, new possibility. Exhale equals death - release, letting go, returning to stillness. Most people favour one part of this cycle. Are you addicted to constant stimulation and new experiences? Or do you focus obsessively on endings and loss? Balance comes from embracing both - like tending a garden that needs seasons of growth AND seasons of rest.  

This understanding of natural cycles reveals something crucial about how we approach difficult emotions. The greatest distortion in spiritual teachings is the focus on "higher frequencies" and avoiding negative emotions. This pulls you away from your truth. Pain is actually your consciousness calling you home. When you move through pain consciously instead of avoiding it, you reach what I call "divine neutrality" - a state of being with everything that is, without attachment or aversion.  

The practice: Go into the pain in your body. Feel it fully. Let it move through you completely. Die to the part of you that thinks you need to avoid it. 

When you remember your eternal nature - that you are consciousness temporarily focused through human experience - everything changes. This life becomes one iteration in infinite expressions of awareness. Fear dissolves when you understand that physical death is simply consciousness shifting form, not disappearing. You can develop energetic relationships with loved ones that transcend physical presence. You can live each moment consciously, preparing for conscious death through conscious living.  

Your practice this week: Notice your avoidance patterns. Where do you seek external validation, control, or certainty to avoid sitting with discomfort?  

Question one identity attachment - what version of yourself are you afraid to let go of?  

Death is not the opposite of life - it's life's greatest teacher. Every moment offers you the opportunity to die to limitation and be reborn into expanded possibility. This isn't morbid contemplation. This is the most practical spiritual practice available to you. When you develop a conscious relationship with death, you discover what it truly means to be alive. 

Don’t forget to listen to the full version of the masterclass here

This work requires tremendous courage. If these concepts resonate, trust that tug in your consciousness. Your willingness to explore these depths is how consciousness evolves through all of us. Send me an email and we can explore more fully 

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